A 42-year-old mother's Reddit post detailing her struggles with her two adult sons, aged 23 and 20, who live at home, are unmotivated, and contribute nothing to the household, highlights a common parental error in the detachment process. The sons have dropped out of university, are unemployed, and exhibit behaviors likened to Hikikomori. Family therapist Sandra Konrad explains that parents often fail to set clear boundaries and guide their children toward independence, instead projecting their own unmet expectations onto them. Konrad emphasizes that parents must adapt their expectations to their children's capabilities and that a healthy detachment process, starting from birth, involves gradually granting autonomy and responsibility, fostering self-confidence and a more mature relationship.